Sunday, February 11, 2007

Friendship & Obligations...

Today I was confronted with a situation that can be messy if i were to let it bugged me deeply. But than again..this is a common occurances among family, friends,collegues etc...What is the problem?Wondering why certain things happen the way it is without us being involved or kept up to date....The feeling that we may be slighted if we are not told of the happenings in somebody's life ( friend or family etc..), not invited to a party that we know somebody is having who is also our friend, not informed of a certain plans or extend an invitation to join something...not returning a call or messages within the expected stipulated time that a friend or family should...Not sure what the record standard time for this!!Somebody keeps asking if you are offended by certain things that he/she do...or predicting that we may not be happy with something that they may have done or said...Talking to someone else about all this suspicions or unhappy feelings instead of the intended person....Urghh...the list can go on and on...

Honestly..I think we should appreciate friendship or relationship just as it is...do not be overcontrolling in a way that whatever our friend or family are doing we must be included.. sometimes things happen unintentionally but even if they are done purposely, only the person who do it knows the real reason...sometimes we assume to much by how somebody is reacting.. but honestly we can be way off the mark....the best thing is to ask matter of factly...do not assume as...you will make an ass out of u and me...and you may be embarassed if you are wrong and might in turn offend the person with whom you are offended with due to mis-judgement...

Do not be judgemental over some reactions our friend or family is showing or the absence of commitments from them...Just accept the way things are....Being too frank can sometimes get you into hot soup too..so is being superly assuming on something...

Sometimes when these things happen..matter of the heart that is...you cannot help but feel a twinge of sorts..but you need to decide how to go on from that twinges...this will either make you or break you...Do not be too demanding or even obliging and too much wondering if a person does not include you in a certain things....most probably it is a simple mistake of having too much to do or to think that makes your brain works sheepishly or stupidly or even not working like the path that has been drawn up by that particular someone....

Sometimes..when these occurances happen..we tend to be secretive of something... hoping it might not hurt the feelings of someone else..but sometimes this can backfire also...

In a way...we cannot win always in these situations...you might have a lot of explaining to do but sometimes this will make the matter worse so...sometimes I choose not to explain but just let it pass....just pray that something else bigger will cross the path of whoever that make them forget about what have happen with you....

2 comments:

gee said...

i kinda get that feelings jugak once in a while...you know why some people ni sibuk lah sgt and suka sgt surmise on everything...or anything...so i try not to be like that...cumanya...it surely bugged us bila some people pulak yang macam tu...and yang confused bila dia complain kat kita...anyways...i hope that i really know how to treasure siapa and priotize apa in my life....sebab itu yang pentingnya :) *hugs*

rozie yusof-azlan said...

TQ..