I believe we always have choices like either YES or NO..This or That..Go or Stay...Accept or Decline...Sometimes there are more choices that you can go for....Anyway..how do you decide to get angry at something that has happen or not to get angry and yet reprimand the offender..how about when this got to do with your kids...
If tak take action..takut jadi..Anakku Sazali with Bapak tawu..nye... If you take the wrong action takut pulak lain akibat nye..So do you really have choices here??? Takut juga tak fair and dituduh unfair...adik tu takpe..bila abang tak boleh pulak...and so on...
How do you say or show that you love each of your kids the same..No doubt you love all of them without question..But indeed you actually love each of them differently..But fairly?? How do you choose or even decide this?? This is the matter of fact question for me...You can't even say that you love A more than B bcos that's not it..it's just that its different in a way with each child or person...
How can you say you still love soebody but do not want to have anything to do with them? Not even to make time to see them...? Most times people are judged by their actions in addition to what they say....
Anyway...to make mistakes and realising it... is to regret it happening..with regret than come actions of preventing it and learn from it..to rub salt into an open wound is by no means will make somebody learn from their mistakes. Will this be enough? Sometimes yes and sometimes no..so back to the dilemma....Poneng kepalo den...
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rasanya kak Rozie has more experience in this matter..
as for me, neeza rasa (rasa je la), I'm being fair to all my kids. Sape buat salah, kena marah. Sape buat baik kena puji..
Yup..we think we are fair base on our thinking but in their eyes it's different sometimes. But apapun asal tak nyesal kemudian hari either being too relax or too strict..Tu yg minta guidance from Allah swt. sentiasa..But I had overcome the said problem with my kid by being honest abt the situation and being calm and listen to what he says and why and yet he needs to be reprimanded for the stupid thing that he did... May Allah swt guide us always....
Ye lah Kak Zie, when they get older they are more aware of the difference in treatment even though actually we dont really think we treat them differently. I usually use the age/maturity and the gender card.. I mean, boys always get it harder coz you have to prepare them to be leaders of their family. Girls get scolded for different things (i.e. bab2 mengemas dan menghias diri), on top of also on how to be good leaders/carers.
Tapi sekarang ni my kids tengah stage bickering, dengki mendengki, asyik nak main computer aje.. which i think is the normal sibling squabbling and hopefully will pass as they get older.. kan kan?
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